Somewhere around 9 or 10, your kid starts watching their own body: how it looks, how it compares, whether it's keeping up. And most of us freeze, because nobody handed us a script for that moment either. Dr. Sheryl sits down with pediatrician Dr. Whitney Casares, author of My One of a Kind Body and the new Raising Body Confident Kids, for a conversation every parent of a tween needs. They get specific: the exact three-step self-compassion script Whitney uses when her own daughter climbs in the car saying "I'm ugly, look at my skin." Why "you're so beautiful" is the wrong reflex. How diet culture went from Special K commercials to an algorithm that feeds your kid more of it every scroll, and how Whitney quietly resets that algorithm behind the scenes. What to say when a grandparent comments on your kid's body at the dinner table. And the smallest, most doable practice for parents carrying their own body baggage: slowing down for one minute. Chapters 0:00 – Intro: when your kid says "I'm ugly" 0:41 – Writing a book for both kids and parents 4:14 – Whitney's mom and "don't look at this fat body" 6:14 – Diet culture then vs. now 7:13 – The messages for kids vs. the messages for parents 10:57 – The 3-step self-compassion script, using acne as the example 15:47 – What to do if you don't have self-compassion for yourself 16:22 – The power of slowing down 19:13 – Why the algorithm makes diet culture worse for kids today 21:16 – Resetting the algorithm and watching content together 23:20 – Getting to know your own diet culture history 25:20 – Re-parenting yourself 26:28 – What to say when grandparents comment on your kid's body 30:37 – Where body confidence fits into the bigger picture 32:48 – Book details and how to find them 34:50 – Today's one thing: slowing down for one minute Looking for more support in the in-between years of parenting? Good Inside Teen gives you practical tools, scripts, and expert guidance for the moments that can feel most overwhelming with tweens and teens: https://www.goodinside.com/lp/teen-parenting/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=traffic%20_teen&utm_content=description_20260717_expert_sheryl_becky Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: Girl Scouts: If you have a daughter in kindergarten through 12th grade, visit girlscouts.org to learn more Frida: Shop Frida for Kids at Walmart and Amazon today Good Inside's Dr. Becky and Dr. Sheryl have a new show on YouTube - Teens & Screens, a bi-weekly video series helping parents navigate today's biggest technology questions. Watch the first episode on youtube.com/@goodinside. #goodinside #drsheryl #bodyimage #bodyconfidence #tweenparenting #selfcompassion #parenting