Thank you to today’s sponsors: Cozy Earth: Get 35% Off with code LISA Link: https://bit.ly/CozyWOI Viome: $110 off your first test Link: https://bit.ly/ViomeWOI It’s Lisa Bilyeu and I’m soooo frikin’ excited to share this episode of Women of Impact with you today!! Today’s guest has been singing about “GIRL POWER” since the 90s, but secretly dealt with abuse in her toxic marriage for 10 YEARS. She tried to leave SO MANY TIMES but kept going back to him and the vicious cycle of abuse before she finally got her power to leave, once and for all!! It’s the inspiring, cheat-print-wearing, the one and only “Scary Spice” of the Spice Girls, Mel B!! She is getting so real and honest about how she finally escaped the abuse FOR GOOD and took back her power AND how now she’s helping spread the word and support the strong, amazing abuse survivors allllll around the world. Mel is here to help us spot the warning signs and GET OUT of toxic relationships before it's too late. We cover soooo much in this interview, including: - Why the abuser is SO GOOD at hunting you down & controlling you - How abuse slowly sneaks up on you and why IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT - The 15 signs of what abuse looks like - Why it’s SO HARD to break the abuse cycle and how 1 promise Mel made actually helped her to leave FOR GOOD - The 2 words Mel has for ANYONE stuck in an abusive relationship - How shame and guilt will keep you trapped & hiding the toxic parts of your relationship - How to deal with the 2 questions you will be asked again and again after you stop hiding the abuse and leave - Why you should ALWAYS listen to your gut intuition So homies, listen to Mel B and don’t let your shame, guilt, and denial keep you abused, used, and trapped in misery!!! It’s time to stand up and take your GIRL POWER back and never let someone take it from you again!!! Chapter Markers: 🧠 [00:00] Know yourself & evolve ❌ [6:18] The shame, guilt, and fear of abuse 👎 [14:45] Isolation & taking control 🚩 [23:57] 15 signs of abuse ❤️‍🩹 [35:24] Support & healing after you leave 👉 [46:18] Bonus Episode: Milck ****Bonus Episode: Stand Up & Set Boundaries for Yourself with Milck**** Keep watching for a BONUS conversation with my homie Milck, who is sharing her tactical steps for women like her to come into their own, find their voice, and become a voice for others. She also exposes the greatest lie we tell ourselves keeping us broken in toxic relationships, how to break away from feeling trapped in patterns of abuse, and the power of personal responsibility. 🔥 MEL B’S FIERY QUOTES: "I was so riddled with embarrassment and shame and guilt because I had kids that, you know, I'm raising and trying to protect them from this guy during that marriage. And it's a strange place that you find yourself.“ “Abusers, they won't stop abusing until you stop them, until you get away." "I mean, if, you know, an abuser doesn't start abusing you straight away, they make sure that they've got you in a great, beautiful position where you are just in love with that person. You know, they can't say anything wrong. They're just showering you with compliments, and they're your rock and they're there for you. And then bit by bit, it just starts to change..." "When you're being abused, it doesn't just happen to you. It kind of filters out to your friends, your family, and they see that you're being isolated, but you don't see it straight away." “Anybody that's left abuse has trauma, and trauma is not going to go away lightly. It's not ever going to completely go, but it can get smaller." "And I didn't realize how badly abused I'd been until it came to me sitting down with Louise, my dear friend, and trying to piece my life together, because I was still in denial and I was still full of shame and guilt." Follow Mel B: Website: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/officialmelb Get Your Copy of “Brutally Honest”: https://geni.us/brutallyhonestpb Follow Milck: Website: https://www.milckmusic.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/milckmusic/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@milckmusic? Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement