Thank you to today's sponsors: BEAM: Head to https://impacttheory.co/woiBEAMaugust24 and enter code “NYBBS” at checkout for 20% off your first order OneSkin: We only have one body, one skin, and only YOU can choose to make it better by going to https://impacttheory.co/oneskinAugust24 and saving 15% when you use code WOI Have you ever seen someone in an unhealthy relationship, like maybe your cousin, a co-worker, your bestie, or let’s be honest, maybe even yourself, and think: “How did they let it get this far?” Whether it's happening to you personally, to someone that you know and care about deeply, or like me you’ll actually had both situations, the reality is that these toxic people are SO absolutely frikin’ amazing at what they do that the warning signs and red flags actually sometimes go unnoticed for far too long…. Until now. Because what if I told you that you could spot the wolf in sheep's clothing before they actually sink their teeth into you and fool everyone, including you, with their lies? There are super subtle ways that the toxic, predatory wolf is preying on you AND playing you. So you NEED to know these 7 common manipulation tactics if you want to have ANY hope of avoiding being their next victim. And with the help of the world’s leading narcissist expert Dr. Ramani, you’ll be able to spot the early warning signs of a toxic person and STOP the con before it starts. Seriously guys, this is a frikin’ masterclass on how to handle manipulative and toxic people with tactics all laid out for you. So you’ll never end up feeling like the fool who “let it get this far” again! CHAPTER MARKERS: 💔 [00:00] They will make you feel like everything is your fault 😞 [36:35] They will make you feel small 🥖 [1:01:24] They will breadcrumb you ❌ [1:12:31] They will betray you 😖 [1:38:18] They will control you ❤️‍🩹 [1:52:46] They will use your vulnerabilities against you 🔄 [2:11:54] They will Hoover you DR. RAMANI’S TRUTH BOMBS: "Shame is sort of the mothership in narcissistic relationships, because both the narcissistic person is feeling shame and the person in the relationship is feeling shame for very different reasons. For them, the shame is that they will be found out to not be perfect, to not be the most powerful. It's as though someone's going to come and take off their superman cape, and there's just going to be a regular person that's the source of their shame. Because they feel so much shame and it's unprocessed, they project it onto everybody else." "Every time we fall in love, every time we enter into a relationship, we are entering into a risky enterprise price. So the balancing act is I'm just never going to trust, but I'm going to have a relationship, but I'm never going to trust." "They're getting that additional benefit in a way that we start getting into the whole emotional cheating. Like they're daydreaming, they're not thinking about their partner, they're not thinking about the stuff they're going to do to their family. They're sort of getting caught up in this ridiculous fantasy." "One of the most painful legacies of a narcissistic parent is that they will use those vulnerabilities against a child. One thing I've classically heard with narcissistic parents and their children is they go after appearance. They go after weight, they go after how someone looks because it is a superficial personality style, right? And they often want their child to be a reflection of how they want to be in the world." "How many times is somebody going to walk around in the world and feel completely unmirrored in what is to be a loving relationship? And especially if they aren't able to build up those other spaces in their lives. Some people figure out the workarounds and they recognize, like, okay, this is not what I would have loved for myself or wanted for myself, but I will try to make the most out of what I can." "The person who wants to step away from the relationship feels shamed, foolish, like they're making a mistake, because that person who's leaving the relationship is already struggling with that. So if the enablers are stepping in and they're saying, like, oh, you sure you know what you're doing? Then there's already so much doubt in the mind of the person leaving." Follow Dr. Ramani: Website: https://doctor-ramani.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani Get your copy of “It’s Not You”: https://a.co/d/7qYmF0f Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement