If similarity feels like settling, your standards might be the problem. In this clip, psychologist Sadia Khan and Jay Shetty talk about why the people we keep ending up with aren't the ones we attract, but the ones we choose to entertain. Sadia opens up about the clients she sees most, what getting ghosted really tells you, and why the "nice guy" is often the one who gets cheated on. Learn about the three things a woman needs to truly fall in love, the three a man needs, and why unconditional love can quietly invite unconditional disrespect. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Chapters 0:00 — The fear that keeps you stuck 1:06 — It's not who you attract, it's who you entertain 2:24 — Why unavailable people feel worth chasing 4:56 — When similarity feels like settling 6:28 — What getting ghosted really tells you 10:11 — Why men lacking masculinity struggle in love 16:13 — The unconscious contract behind helping 18:52 — Why women cheat on good men 20:38 — How to become someone who never gets cheated on 23:40 — The three A's women need to fall in love 28:38 — The three L's men need 33:08 — The woman he dates vs. the woman he marries 36:48 — Sleeping with someone too early 40:12 — "If they cheat, it's partly your fault" 51:51 — When he won't commit 53:53 — Why ultimatums backfire 59:13 — The worst thing to say after a breakup Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️ Netflix - https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD Spotify - https://dub.sh/axUXylv Full Episode With Sadia Khan: https://youtu.be/DdHzw1aeT5Y Episode Resources: https://www.sadiapsychology.com/ https://www.instagram.com/thesadiapsychology https://www.tiktok.com/@sadiapsychology https://www.youtube.com/@sadiapsychology