Weeks of texting someone feels like intimacy. It's actually the safest way to never get rejected. In this clip, Jillian Turecki and Jay Shetty talk about the three mistakes people keep making in dating, and why the fourth one, the month-long text thread with a stranger, might be the most expensive of all. Jillian breaks down why we chase the people who don't want us and lose interest in the ones who do, what "chemistry" is actually measuring, and why the person you pick matters more than almost any other decision you'll make. Jay shares the friend who came back from a perfect date and didn't want a second one. Learn about the difference between a spark and a value, why your 16-year-old self is still running your dating life, and the one piece of advice from a therapist that Jillian calls the worst she's ever received. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Chapters 0:00 — The three biggest dating mistakes 1:59 — The month-long text thread that fakes intimacy 4:36 — Building the resilience-to-rejection muscle 6:59 — There is no "the one" 8:35 — Slowing down when the chemistry hits 9:22 — The most important decision you'll ever make 10:29 — Why we want the people who don't want us 13:17 — Fear of intimacy and the emotionally unavailable type 14:39 — The man who looks strong and isn't safe 16:57 — Building self-esteem without being precious with yourself 19:33 — "There are no good men left" 20:44 — The dinner conversation that changed her friend's mind 24:01 — Why you keep dating the same person 25:34 — Aura and charisma aren't character 27:06 — What changes about attraction as you mature 30:47 — Still chasing your 16-year-old crush 32:17 — The perfect date she didn't want a second one after 34:43 — Honesty from date one vs. oversharing 36:32 — Why withholding becomes the sickness 40:58 — Waiting for your partner to change overnight 43:33 — If you want an apple, sit under an apple tree 46:59 — How to know who to make it work with 52:31 — What to do when nothing's wrong but nothing's right 55:24 — The reflection to do after a breakup Watch the FULL episode on Netflix & Spotify 🎙️ Netflix - https://dub.sh/QaUsKeD Spotify - https://dub.sh/axUXylv Full Episode With Jillian Turecki: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tw_e9YdRXDg Episode Resources: https://youtube.com/@jillian.turecki?si=MujfV6iVZsZ9RGLq https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki?igsh=Mnh4djZsNjFxbXZq https://www.facebook.com/share/16Ekhv9oMK/ https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMksPLhD8/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillian-turecki-033794a5?utm_source=share&utm_campaign=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=android_app https://www.jillianturecki.com/ https://www.amazon.com/Begins-You-Truths-About-Change/dp/0063374366