Lilia Tarawa was raised in an isolated community in New Zealand started by her grandfather, called Gloriavale. Inspired by the Amish in the US, he implemented communal living, strict gender roles and even identical uniforms for its members. The numbers grew rapidly, especially since birth control wasn’t allowed. Lilia showed promise in leadership skills as a chiId, but was quickly shot down in an hours long public shaming by her own grandfather. When her friends were being arranged to marry men they didn’t know or like, she realized she needed to escape. Learn how her whole family was able to leave Gloriavale and struggled they faced afterwards. Watch our follow up LIVE with Lilia: https://www.youtube.com/live/24ajRC6sL74?si=UMriG1T7u1ewwXCb Book: “Daughter of Gloriavale: My Life in a Religious Cult” https://amzn.to/3MUD7zd Find Lilia on social media! Podcast: “Brandbreaker with Lilia Tarawa” https://open.spotify.com/show/3IM81LperO0ILaN5SPdPca?si=45a433c9b4c54448 TT: https://www.tiktok.com/@liliatarawa FB: https://www.facebook.com/msliliatarawa IG: https://www.instagram.com/liliatarawa/ Subscribe to our C2C "CLIPS" Channel! https://www.youtube.com/@CultstoConsciousnessClips Support C2C - Any donations are welcome and appreciated to support the making of this podcast. Find our FULL (uncensored) merch store here! https://cults-to-consciousness-shop.fourthwall.com/en-usd Patreon https://www.patreon.com/cultstoconsciousness Venmo @sheliseann Find us on Social media! Instagram @cultstoconsciousness https://www.instagram.com/cultstoconsciousness Host Instagram @sheliseann https://www.instagram.com/sheliseann/ Co Producer / Host @jonathan.rosales_ https://www.instagram.com/jonathan.rosales_ TikTok @cults.to.consciousness https://www.tiktok.com/@cults.to.consciousness Twitter @cultstocon https://twitter.com/cultstocon Chapter Marks 00:00:00 Intro 00:02:52 Gloriavale explained 00:06:24 Life in the commune 00:13:11 Positive experiences growing up 00:19:27 Seeing problems in retrospect 00:25:40 Justifying ab*se within the group 00:31:13 Hierarchy within the group 00:35:13 Healthcare within the community 00:42:38 Education 00:53:57 Arranged marriage 01:01:35 Why her family decided to leave 01:07:27 Deconstruction after leaving 01:13:57 Backlash after leaving 01:17:24 What helped Lilia become who she is today 01:19:58 Triggers 01:27:28 What brings Lilia joy today 01:29:52 Linda, listen **Disclaimer: Thanks for joining us at Cults to Consciousness. This storytelling podcast is meant to be for entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for medical advice. We may discuss triggering topics and we ask that you make your personal mental health a priority. Lastly, the opinions of our guests do not necessarily reflect the opinions of the host.**