Thank you to today’s sponsors: Lumen: Go to https://bit.ly/WOILumen and use code "NYBBS" to get $50 off your Lumen. Beam Minerals: Head to https://bit.ly/WOIBeam and enter code “NYBBS” at checkout for 20% off your first order It’s Lisa Bilyeu and today I’ve got such a frikin’ important episode of Women of Impact that will help you take back your power and feel frikin’ confident that you can achieve the life you ALWAYS wanted!! And today’s guest is here with SOOO much incredible knowledge to help us better understand ourselves – it’s the amazing triple board certified clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, Dr. Judy Ho. Now guys, this woman is an absolute EXPERT on the different types of attachment styles AND how you can actually heal insecure attachment styles at ANY age and improve every aspect of your life, from friendships to your career to romantic relationships and even your sense of self. In this episode we discuss in SOO much detail: - What EXACTLY makes you always go back to unhealthy relationships & how you can actually break the cycle - Each of the 4 types of attachment styles & how each show up in your life, relationships, and career - How to retrain your brain’s operating system so you can actually get what you want out of life and not be controlled by your insecure attachments - The formula for handling triggers so they don’t totally derail your growth - The miracle question to ask yourself which will help you to FINALLY enjoy your life more - How attachment styles show up in your relationships, career, mindset, and entire frikin’ life - And 3 things you can do to go from an insecure attachment style to secure attachment!! We go SOOO deeper into understanding the different types of attachment styles, what tendencies you have because of them, and what you can do to actually overcome them, retrain your brain, and reclaim your frikin’ life! This stuff goes to the core of your identity homie, and so this episode will help you actually learn more about yourself so you can grow and become the person you ACTUALLY want to be. I know I learnt sooo much from Dr. Judy and you will too! So grab a pen and paper and listen up!! Chapter Markers: 🧠 [00:00] The influence of early attachment bonds 🤲 [7:27] The 4 types of attachment styles ❤️‍🩹 [37:37] Healing your attachment with reparenting 😖 [51:51] Comfort in familiarity's pain 🔄 [1:20:15] Balanced life versus single-minded focus 🤗 [1:27:23] Happiness now, not later 👉 [1:34:51] Bonus Episode: Dr. Laura Berman ****Bonus Episode: The TRUTH BEHIND Attraction and How to BUILD DESIRE with Dr. Laura Berman**** Keep watching for a BONUS conversation with relationship and sex expert Dr. Laura Berman, who is giving her insights into healing past traumas that are affecting your current relationships, addressing frequent painful relationships, transforming love through understanding and connection, and nurturing sexual intimacy to improve overall connection. 🔥 DR. JUDY HO’S FIRE QUOTES: "In these early years of your life, when you're just learning how the world works, your attachment bonds with your primary caregivers, the most important adults that are in your life, on a near daily or daily basis. You soak up a lot of information during that time where you're learning about who I am in this world, what happens when I communicate, what I need and what I want, how people around me respond." "Whenever my husband gets angry, I'm angry, too. I just adopt their feelings to the point where I don't even know what my own feelings are anymore because I just basically take on all the problems of everybody else in my life." "The questions that you have to ask yourself is, are you able to still do the things that are important to you, but stay connected to the people around you that matter to you?" "I have seen people who are securely attached get into a really big relationship with somebody who's disorganized, attached, and then all of a sudden, for the first time in their adult life, they're developing some forms of insecure attachment themselves because it was so chaotic in that relationship." "The fix is in here. And the reparenting works because your adult self has the capabilities, has more resources than your child's self to actually meet the needs that you didn't get met when you were little." Follow Dr. Judy Ho: Website: https://drjudyho.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho/ Order “The New Rules of Attachment”: https://drjudyho.com/books/the-new-rules-of-attachment/ Follow Me, Lisa Bilyeu: Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu X: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu If you want to dive deeper into my content, search through every episode, find specific topics I've covered, and ask me questions. Go to my Dexa page: https://dexa.ai/lisabilyeu Themes: Confidence, Relationships, Business, Mental Health, Self-Improvement