Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Alex and Xavia, two women in their twenties who talk about dating in Los Angeles. Subscribe through my link https://ground.news/swu or download the mobile app and enter promo code SWU to save 40% off their Vantage plan. For ad-free, uncensored videos and plenty of exclusive content please subscribe to the Soft White Underbelly subscription channel at softwhiteunderbelly.com. It's $10 a month and watchable on Apple and Android mobile apps, Roku TV, Apple TV and Amazon Fire. 0:00 – Introductions: Dating in Los Angeles 1:43 – Too Many Options, No Real Connection 2:20 – Apps, Initiating & Modern Dating 6:04 – Hygiene, Effort & The Maturity Gap 9:31 – Sponsor: Ground News 10:53 – What They Actually Want in a Partner 13:15 – Age Gaps, Older Men & Financial Stability 17:57 – Height, Attraction & Physical Preferences 19:37 – Situationships & Emotional Fallout 23:32 – Therapy & Self-Awareness 27:24 – Marriage, Kids & Fear of Settling 31:08 – Sex, Chemistry & Attachment 34:12 – Communication Styles & Dating Games 37:29 – Casual Dating vs. Relationships 40:20 – Social Media, Porn & AI 42:08 – Ghosting, Cheating & The “Rotation” Culture 47:11 – Past Relationship Trauma 50:15 – Aging, Beauty & Self-Confidence 53:27 – Fame, Industry Dating & Power 56:22 – The Dream Partner 1:02:16 – Final Thoughts Here's how to purchase the Soft White Underbelly books and merch: https://softwhiteunderbelly.org #swu #softwhiteunderbelly #dating #twenties #ladies #relationships #losangeles #marklaita #documentary #valentinesday #situationship #attraction