Get my book Radical Confidence NOW https://www.radicalconfidence.com/UDX497 Get my FREE 4-part Confidence Course https://www.radicalconfidence.com/cdg501?r_done=1 Listen NOW to the WOI Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865 On Today's Episode: You’ve probably heard “it’s not how you start, but how you finish” and as cliche as it has become, it is such a powerful statement. Just because life starts out rough and harsh doesn’t mean it remains that way. Vanessa Lachey is a wife, mother, actress, model, and so much more and yet having her mother leave at the age of nine has not held her back. She shares with Lisa the perspective she’s developed over the years that has lead to her success and the release of her first book, Life from Scratch. Vanessa wants everyone to know that “creating your own happy ending,” traditions and happiness is always possible and within reach. If a life of shame and darkness or a string of failures and mistakes make it difficult to see how, she urges you to simply start with a time when you were your happiest and recreate from there. To Purchase a Copy Vanessa’s book ‘Life From Scratch’: https://www.harpercollins.com/pages/lifefromscratch SHOW NOTES: New Tradition | Vanessa explains how she found her way to start a life from scratch [0:46] No Regrets | Why living a life with no regrets started with knowing what you want [5:18] Friend Traditions | Nurturing bonds with friends being intentional to stay connected [9:02] Romantic Traditions | Making sure you don’t let important moments pass by big or small [13:15] Saying No | How to say no to stress and anxiety to make room for what matters no guilt [16:21] Self Care | Vanessa on what self care is for her to feel refreshed and better for others [19:36] Communicating | How communication helped strengthen Vanessa’s family and marriage [23:41] Future Rehearsal | Reframing mistakes, reshape the future, be prepared for what’s next [26:32] QUOTES: “You can make it happen! No one's going to bring you the job, no one's going to bring you the husband, it's not going to land in your lap. You have to be open to receiving it, to accepting it, but also [...] working on yourself to be ready for when it comes." [3:30] “The hardest thing about friendship is reciprocity, where we always want to know that people have our back when we're down, but we don't ever think to reach out to them.” [11:00] “In the moments of overwhelm or stress or anxiety, where's like that those are the times you really don't feel like it. But of course, those are the times that you really need it.” Lisa Bilyeu [16:22] “Finding ways to say no to other things that will stress you out or give you anxiety to be able to say yes to the things that matter.” [16:32] “People are really appreciative when you're like, ‘I'm going through a lot right now, and I think I over committed, can we raincheck, I don't know when ’” [18:04] “When you hold it in and you blow up, you end up beating yourself up or you end up hurting someone close to you and then beating yourself up for hurting them.” [23:22] Follow Vanessa Lachey: Website: https://www.vanessalachey.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/VanessaLachey Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessalachey/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/VanessaLacheyOfficial