In this episode of unPAUSED, Dr. Mary Claire Haver sits down with Kim and Penn Holderness, the husband and wife content creators behind the widely popular Holderness Family, bestselling authors, and winners of The Amazing Race Season 33. Together they built an audience of millions by finding the humor in real life, and in this conversation they turn that same lens on perimenopause, ADHD, marriage, and the particular chaos of midlife. Kim opens up about the perimenopausal symptoms that arrived before she had any name for them: the anxiety that made everything feel like being chased by a bear, the panic attacks triggered by nothing she could identify, and the growing sense that something was fundamentally wrong with her. She describes walking out of her doctor's office with no treatment after being told her symptoms were normal, the financial reality of having to seek out a functional medicine doctor to finally get the estrogen and progesterone support she needed, and the combination of hormonal and psychiatric care that eventually helped her feel like herself again. She also speaks with real honesty about her postpartum anxiety, perimenopause and depression, and her OCD diagnosis, and how all of it left her desperate for a voice that would simply say: this is hard. Guest links: * The Holderness Family https://theholdernessfamily.com/ * The Holderness Family (Instagram) https://www.instagram.com/theholdernessfamily/reels/ * The Holderness Family - Music (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCl2axinLKd00nMBW6RTASag * The Holderness Family - Comedy (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/@holdernessfamilylaughs * The Holderness Family (Facebook) https://www.facebook.com/TheHoldernessfamily/ * The Holderness Family (Substack) https://theholdernessfamily.substack.com/ * The Holderness Family (TikTok) https://www.tiktok.com/@theholdernessfamily * Laugh Lines with Kim & Penn Holderness (Apple Podcasts) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/laugh-lines-with-kim-penn-holderness/id1378725018 * PC’s Playbook Podcast (YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/@UCAo4OyYEF2ACo2jKUCBfidQ Books: * “ADHD Is Awesome,” by Penn and Kim Holderness https://theholdernessfamily.com/adhd-is-awesome/ * “Everybody Fights,” by Penn and Kim Holderness https://theholdernessfamily.com/book/ * "All You Can Be With ADHD," by Penn and Kim Holderness https://theholdernessfamily.com/all-you-can-be-with-adhd/ * “The New Perimenopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://thepauselife.com/pages/the-new-perimenopause-book * “The New Menopause,” by Dr. Mary Claire Haver https://www.amazon.com/New-Menopause-Mary-Claire-Haver/dp/1785045547 For full show notes, please visit: https://bit.ly/unPAUSEDTheHoldernessFamily Never miss an episode—sign up for The ’Pause Life Newsletter: https://thepauselife.com/pages/newsletter Medical Disclaimer: The information, including opinions and recommendations, on this platform is meant for informational and educational purposes only. Mary Claire Media, LLC, the unPAUSED podcast, and The ’Pause Life are not medical organizations. Medical advice or medical diagnosis cannot be provided to you through the platform, any associated website, or customer portals. Using this platform does not establish a patient-physician relationship.