Conflict is a necessary component for developing and maintaining healthy, deep connections.

“Healthy communities hold healthy heat. And so, the first thing is just to just pause. And if you are like me, which is I was raised where if any of the heat starts to rise, we all just like stick our head in the sand like ostriches, that it is not only okay to have conflict, that it is conflict is r”

Arguments are not meant to be won, but rather unraveled to identify the hidden needs behind the conflict.

“What I teach is arguments are not something to win. They're something to unravel. You find knots in conversations.”

When in conflict, one should use the compassionate curiosity framework of acknowledging emotions, asking open-ended questions, and joint problem solving.

“The three-part compassionate curiosity framework is the three parts I would do with myself, which is what you actually need to be doing because you're the one holding yourself back from saying something.”

Individuals can improve their capacity to navigate conflict by asking for specific, honest feedback from trusted allies and by focusing on understanding rather than defensiveness.

“Asking a friend two questions. Ask you two questions and help you process in two directions. One is what we're doing naturally, which is be as supportive mirror. Join me in asking what's wrong with this feedback. And then when I'm ready — usually, we quit there and go home because now we feel better”

Conflict in friendship can be addressed by treating the discussion as an invitation to participate in a way that respects personal needs rather than an accusation.

“It helps to package it as an invitation and not an accusation.”

Dr. Phil warns that ongoing neighbor conflicts can escalate and lead to serious harm or legal consequences for the participants.

“Number two, this can escalate to the point that somebody gets big stupid and does something big stupid and somebody gets hurt or killed.”

Starting public beefs unnecessarily puts oneself and one's entire team in physical danger when traveling to other territories.

“you're not just putting your life in danger Hotel you putting a whole team in danger now if some happen god forbid somebody something happened to somebody now you got they mamas everybody any family mad at you because he didn't get something happened to him because of him it happened because of you”

Individuals with access to power should use it to de-escalate potential conflicts rather than relying on individuals who do not know how to think.

“I would have loved to have seen somebody with his team here with cuevo versus you know what I mean one of them other people man that don't know how to think so if you got access to power it's important to use that access”

A man's primary goal when moving through the world should be ensuring he returns home safely to his family, necessitating careful protection.

“your objective should be to make it home to your family your woman or whatever every day you leave at the house you have to think that way”

He believes that resolving conflicts by intentionally damaging a partner's property or causing them emotional distress is unacceptable.

“you're risking infertility for Revenge what's wrong with you”