Matthew Hussey claims that open communication about one's insecurities is a necessary, albeit challenging, component of building a real relationship.

“I'm not being That's the hard place to be, right? When you know you're not being your normal, fun, loving, happy self, but you're also not being honest about what you're feeling. So, you're just in this weird no man's land of like being unpleasant to be around.”

Lori Gottlieb states that both partners must learn to provide safe space for each other to express vulnerability.

“So, we need to make sure that we are providing the space for the the partner who's not vulnerable to be vulnerable. We can ask them what would be helpful. And and I think we just don't ask the questions and then we say, "Well, this person's not capable of it."”