A partner's willingness to acknowledge their problems and actively work on their process of solving them is more important than the specific problems they possess.

“I'm more concerned I'm less concerned about the problems that you have and more concerned about your process for solving the problems that you have.”

It is critical for individuals to move past simply identifying their faults and instead actively implement strategies to change their behavior.

“I find that um a lot of people are sometimes able to identify that they have an issue, but instead of saying going into ne step two and saying, I want to figure out the resources so I can work on this issue, they they they take that on as like a part of their personality.”