Letting go of the need to control others and taking personal responsibility for one's own reactions is the key to improving and healing relationships.

“when you start to say let them and you let people be themselves you create space for Change and transformation like it's kind of crazy the more you stop trying to control everybody else the more control you gain the more you let other people be themselves the better your relationships become”

Collaborating on a shared project can help bridge the distance in a relationship by moving the focus away from old baggage and onto a common goal.

“I bet you've had experience in your life where something happened maybe somebody got really sick in your family and everybody drops everything and runs in to help and suddenly the baggage isn't there because there is something other than the history that everybody's organized around”

A person does not need to be fully healed before entering a relationship, but must be committed to growth and accountable for their actions.

“So, I really really hope that we take seriously that do you need to be fully healed? No. But you do need to be at a point where you can accept accountability for when you're making mistakes. That you are at least committed to growing past that”

A partner does not need to be fully healed to enter a relationship, as certain personal challenges and triggers only reveal themselves within the context of a long-term dynamic.

“Do you really have to be fully healed to be in a in a loving relationship or is that something that you can do while being with someone? >> I think both. >> Yeah. >> Right. >> Yeah. >> I believe that entering into a relationship, you must be healed in specific areas.”