She argues that breaking toxic dating patterns requires shifting the focus from seeking to be picked by others to intentionally choosing oneself.

“when I made that shift, holy [ __ ] everything started to change. But my next kind of question goes to you, okay, so you're not dating right now. You're taking the time for you. I'm curious. Did that come and and it could be a yes and did that come from a place of empowerment”

She acknowledges a pattern of repeatedly choosing emotionally unavailable men who mirrored the distant and dismissive behavior of her father.

“every time that I now think about the kind of men that I attracted, it was always men that kind of acted like my dad. Where I always had to be like, I'm here, do you see me?”