Modern dating culture is an obsessive and shallow pursuit driven by the desire to secure a partner as a status symbol rather than for genuine connection.

“and her entire life from when she [ __ ] gets wet for the first time till she traps one of these poor losers is about stalking and finding this guy and she needs a podcasts about it”

Modern dating culture prioritizes speed, convenience, and instant gratification, which discourages the gradual development of meaningful, emotionally invested relationships.

“So, avoidant culture is really just avoiding anything that's inconveniencing or anything that causes discomfort. Meaning, anything that takes too much time, anything that requires too much effort, anything that requires consistency or follow-through, that would basically fall into avoidant culture.”

Modern dating culture has been severely degraded by the addictive and dopamine-driven nature of dating apps.

“The whole system right now is not set up for two people who actually want a relationship to find each other, especially two intentional people. You know, I said in the video we did on Sunday, it's like, you know, a bunch of people who want real relationships are put in a mixer with a whole bunch of ”

First dates should prioritize personal connection and conversation over the prestige or cost of a restaurant.

“I don't need the restaurant to be the entertainment that's the point and I don't want to be like quiet and like weird I want to be able to talk to you”

Sam argues that using dating apps is preferable and more straightforward than the complex, performative social trends like using pineapples in supermarkets to signal romantic interest.

“The Spanish are overco complicating this how how about just going up to someone and saying hey I like you no you have this this beautiful dance of upside down fruit and and little carriages that it go is that not so how did you and Mom meet oh in the wine aisle of I don't think the pineapple story g”

Relying on external rules like chaperones to maintain purity suggests a lack of personal self-control and maturity.

“if I really need these rules to keep me moral I'm not a good dude like don't marry me like if the only thing keeping me pure and focused on her and loving her well is like a chaperon I'm not a good person like I need to work on self-control”

She believes that the courtship process she experienced was a positive learning experience that helped shape her into the person she is today.

“I feel like we would not be the same people that we are for if in in any life circumstances that happens to us it's made us into the people that we are and so we can't change that and so I I mean there's really like not any I mean I'm sure you you can chime in on this too but for me I don't think th”