Household tasks are morally neutral, and assigning them moral value creates shame that hinders one's ability to function.

“it is a morally neutral task mess is morally neutral dishes do not make meaning only people do and we are assigning that meaning”

A person's self-worth should not be linked to their ability to keep a perfectly clean and organized home.

“I struggle with staying organized and not beating myself up over it I pretty much have my [ __ ] together in so many areas of my life can you explain why it's so hard to just get the simple chores done around the house”

Guilt relates to specific actions whereas shame is a core belief that one is fundamentally flawed and exists before one can walk or talk.

“guilt is I did something bad. But shame, shame rewires your entire nervous system.”