Standards should be non-negotiable requirements like communication, consistency, and respect, rather than mere preferences like appearance.

“standards are your non-negotiables. Like some examples of that could be the way they communicate um consistency, respect.”

A potential partner must understand and work toward being a secure person, regardless of their initial attachment style.

“a standard of mine is a secure man or working to being aware that they are either anxious or avoidant, wherever whatever they are, but working to become secure.”