He believes that trauma and failures are necessary to shape a person's character for the better.

“trauma creates success it can break many people but also it can make many people like trauma especially like childhood trauma and even like young adult trauma can can can can shape who you are and change who you are for the better and it did for me”

Getting older and reflecting on life can lead to initial feelings of regret, but a shift in perspective reveals life is going well.

“I was like I was laying in bed like, "Damn, dude. My parents were in like their 20s when they had my family and like I'm [ __ ] old. Like my kids aren't even gonna like I'm 38 and instead of having kids I just I I did pretty good. I caught myself. I was trying to be like I didn't do [ __ ] with my l”

A transformative personal experience can serve as a catalyst for growth and lasting change if one chooses to embrace its lessons.

“I will never ever ever forget the night of my 27th anniversary I can't tell you what I did on my 23rd anniversary or my 11th anniversary or even my second anniversary but I will never forget the experience of rescuing that owl and the impact that it had on my life and my marriage”

Chris Willx argues that in one's 30s, it is necessary to identify and discard the specific behavioral patterns and fuel sources developed in the 20s that no longer serve one's current goals.

“For me, I would ask, what did I develop in my 20s that no longer serves me now? That would be the first question that I would ask myself.”

He advocates for being authentic instead of trying to be polished on television.

“at a certain point I just got tired of trying to be what I thought a woman on TV was supposed to be and I just started being myself”

Taking time at the end of the year to look back on one's experiences and lessons is a rejuvenating and therapeutic exercise.

“I found that taking a little bit of time, especially at this time of year, to look back on the last 12 months is so helpful. so um rejuvenating and and satisfying to just take a moment to appreciate what we just experienced.”

He is shifting his focus toward investing time in people who show up for him.

“the biggest thing I've been trying to work on is showing up for the people who show up for me right like I let people do me dirty for so long talk crazy about me still show up for him still do that but it's just just recently I had a conversation with my wife it's like I'm done”