Being a control freak is a defense mechanism developed from experiencing unpredictability and insecurity during childhood.

“it makes you very fond of control when you with a parent who drinks I think as a child you never really feel like you're in control of things because you don't know when the lion might come out and so it made us insecure and very fond of control and I'm a control freak”

One can cultivate a growth mindset by learning to derive pleasure and dopamine from the process of effort itself rather than focusing solely on the final reward.

“The neural mechanism of cultivating growth mindset involves learning to access the rewards from effort and doing. And that's hard to do because you have to engage this prefrontal component of the mesolimbic circuit.”

Purpose is often discovered and deepened through service and the willingness to learn new skills.

“what are the top skills you would need to master to succeed in your purpose in your life in your career”