The belief that humans can build self-esteem through positive affirmations or self-talk is ineffective if it contradicts one's accumulated negative evidence.

“obviously words provide very little evidence for anything other than a prompt i don't know yeah absolutely so your brain works like a scientist with evidence through action”

Confidence is developed through repeated exposure to situations that cause vulnerability rather than by avoiding them.

“if you're only ever willing to be in the situations where you feel confident then you're it can't grow it can't it can't sort of grow beyond that”