The most effective way to heal from a breakup is to follow a 30-day no-contact rule to allow the nervous system to process the separation.

“no contact for 30 days none no contact 30 days and the reason why is that any contact at all whether it's seeing a photo but particularly their voice she said you cannot watch videos you cannot listen to voice memos because their voice is so supercharged in terms of its coding in your body”

Forcing no contact with an ex-partner is a challenging but necessary step to break the cycle of repeatedly returning to a past relationship.

“forcing myself to cut ties to not reach out I think it also helped that he didn't reach out so I wasn't well I wish he did did he didn't and that completed the full 30 days for the both of us”