Effective couples therapy helps partners move from an adaptive, knee-jerk state of mind into a wise, adult prefrontal cortex state.

“What I've created, I call relational life therapy, deals with the part of you that won't use them.”

Jay Shetty notes that couples therapy often reveals that partners lack the necessary emotional communication skills because they were never formally taught them.

“And when you're inside someone else's therapy exercise, you start to recognize just how we don't have the emotional vocabulary. We don't have the communication skills. And it's not our fault. It's because no one's ever taught us them.”

Successful couples tend to maintain a ratio of at least five positive interactions for every one negative interaction.

“research finding that the gottman's got after looking at thousands of couples um and codifying these interactions that they were observing couples that tend to be satisfied in their relationships that are happier they have better health Etc they are having approximately five positive interactions to”

Couples therapy should be used as a regular practice to ensure relationship longevity and healthy communication rather than just as a last resort.

“like couples therapy is a regular thing you should be doing to preserve the longevity of your relationship to make your relationship last long term and be healthy, happy, have great communication, whatever.”

The label of narcissist is overused in casual conversation to describe anyone who is selfish or immature.

“I don't know, everybody's a [ __ ] narcissist. It drives me insane.”