Matt believes that discussing personal emotions openly is a healthy way to cope with bad situations.

“I think I like us opening up about like [ __ ] yes and being emotional and like just opening up our heart and being vulnerable and just us being unfiltered with us crying on the no exactly so no but I'm glad it's turning into something we're like we're gonna just open up and talk about whatever we w”

The impact of early loss needs to be actively addressed and integrated, rather than suppressed, to stop it from negatively defining one's adult life.

“I mean I think I was being defined by loss. I was being defined by oh you know as a 9 year old I didn't have the ability to understand that my brother didn't have a choice.”

Grief is a personal experience that cannot be governed by expectations, and it is natural for the grieving process to be surprising and non-linear.

“there's no right grief is surprising it's gonna hit you when you're not suspecting it sometimes longer you know people expect oh it's been a year yeah why am i you're good you know that's not how it works it's not how it works”