What really happens to long-term relationships when women hit midlife and menopause? In this deeply honest conversation, Dr. Mindy Pelz sits down with bestselling author and relationship expert Terry Real to unpack the emotional, cultural, and neurological shifts that change how women and men relate between ages 40–60. Why are so many women reevaluating their marriages? Why do men often struggle with vulnerability just as women begin to find their voice? And how can couples rebuild connection instead of drifting apart? If your relationship feels different in midlife — or you’re trying to understand your partner on a deeper level — this episode will give you clarity, language, and tools you can use right away. ✨ To view full show notes, visit: https://drmindypelz.com/ep318/ TIMESTAMPS 03:15 – Why midlife women initiate 70% of divorces 05:49 – The modern marriage paradox: intimacy vs outdated roles 08:20 – How patriarchy disconnects men from vulnerability 12:40 – How girls lose their voice & how menopause brings it back 16:13 – Why women crave deeper connection when estrogen drops 17:12 – How to create emotional safety for men 21:00 – Why criticism shuts men down and what works instead 29:25 – Terry’s “relational golden rule” for communication 35:50 – Your relationship is an ecosystem, not a battleground 58:30 – Harmony → disharmony → repair: the real cycle of marriage 1:01:20 – How to know when to stay, get support, or let go 1:13:20 – Terry’s courses & tools for rebuilding connection RESOURCES & LINKS Terry Real Website → https://terryreal.com YouTube → @realterryreal Instagram → @realterryreal Books → Us, The New Rules of Marriage, I Don’t Want to Talk About It Courses & Workshops → How to Fight Fair, Healthy Boundaries, Self-Esteem, Should I Stay or Go? Dr. Mindy’s Books Age Like a Girl → http://bit.ly/agelikeagirl Fast Like a Girl → https://drmindypelz.com/books/ Eat Like a Girl → https://drmindypelz.com/books/ 💛 Join Reset Academy Fasting guidance, hormone support, community, and monthly live coaching → https://resetacademy.drmindypelz.com/