Ready to begin or deepen your meditation practice? Join Dan Harris and world-class meditation teachers on the 10% with Dan Harris app here: https://app.danharris.com/membership We're all going to have periods — small ones and big ones — where we feel stuck, drifting, doubting ourselves, or unable to make a decision that matters. Today, Dan sat down with two of the most useful happiness researchers/writers alive today to build a top 10 list of specific, evidence-backed moves for getting yourself out. Dan was, as he confesses on air, in a stuck period himself. This one is a working session. This episode is part of our 10th anniversary series, where we bring back favorite guests to build top-10 lists on the biggest topics. Gretchen Rubin is the host of the Happier podcast and the author of many bestsellers, including The Happiness Project, The Four Tendencies, Life in Five Senses, and her latest, Secrets of Adulthood. Dr. Laurie Santos is a professor of psychology at Yale and the host of The Happiness Lab podcast. The 10 moves: Know what's actually keeping you stuck — Gretchen on drift, Laurie on resistance-as-data Practice self-compassion first — including the "distanced self-talk" upgrade Know your tendency (Gretchen's Four Tendencies) and use the fresh start effect (back-to-school works for adults too) Clear your physical space — with a warning against "procrasti-clearing," plus the one-minute rule Reclaim your time — time affluence, "time confetti," and Laura Vanderkam's "golden hours" Engage your senses deliberately Get your body basics right — the boring stuff (sleep and movement) actually working Do something for somebody else — even something small Make a decision, any decision — fighting optimization paralysis, and why any decision quickly becomes the right one Invest in social connection — the single most robust finding in all of happiness research Also in this episode: – Treating yourself like a toddler, a grandchild, or a factory – The inner drill sergeant vs. the inner coach – Kristin Neff's three-part self-compassion framework – Ethan Kross on why talking to yourself in the third person actually works – The George Bernard Shaw quote about drift vs. steering – Dan Gilbert's "psychological immune system" – Ellen Langer: don't make the right decision, make the decision right – The "liking gap" — the persistent evidence that other people like you more than you think Subscribe to watch more 10% Happier videos: https://www.youtube.com/tenpercenthappier Follow Dan Harris on Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/danharris/ https://www.tiktok.com/@danbharris https://www.facebook.com/DanHarrisABC https://twitter.com/danbharris https://www.linkedin.com/in/dan-harris-91ba5716b/ #10PercentHappier #HappinessLab #TheHappinessProject This episode is brought to you by Rosetta Stone. Rosetta Stone Sapphire combines Rosetta Stone's trusted immersion method with the latest in language learning to help you go from knowing phrases to speaking confidently about what you actually care about. Get 20% off your Rosetta Stone Sapphire subscription, plus unlimited access to all 25 languages, at https://www.rosettastone.com/happier. This episode is brought to you by Skylight. Skylight Calendar is an all-in-one digital smart calendar that syncs seamlessly with Google Calendar, Apple Calendar, Outlook, and more — giving your whole family customizable daily, weekly, or monthly views in one sleek display. Get $30 off your 15-inch calendar at https://www.myskylight.com/happier. This episode is brought to you by Cash App. The Cash App Card is available to teens 13 to 17 with sponsorship by an eligible parent or guardian, with intuitive educational tools and instant access to money from family and friends. Download Cash App today and sponsor your teen. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partners. Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. See terms at cash.app/legal/podcast.