Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist with 20 years of experience specializing in sex therapy, holding bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University and a master’s in counseling psychology. Working alongside her husband Xander, she provides practical tools and courses to help couples strengthen their relationships and enhance intimacy through their platform Vanessa and Xander. A New York Times bestselling author of "Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life," Vanessa has been featured in outlets like The New York Times, O Magazine, and Harper’s Bazaar. She co-hosts the "Pillow Talks" podcast, offering advice on sex, relationships, and communication, and has amassed millions of views on her YouTube channel debunking myths and promoting healthy discussions. Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoujZQZatbqy4KGcgjpVxQ/join Shawn Ryan Show Links SUBSCRIBE: http://www.youtube.com/@ShawnRyanShow Sign up: https://shawnryanshow.com/pages/newsletter Support the Show: https://www.patreon.com/VigilanceElite Download Free Content: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1lF-8_5jwRc5eAhzDkqqCOp-6yvd05vAw?usp=sharing Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/shawn-ryan-show/id1492492083 Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5eodRZd3qR9VT1ip1wI7xQ?si=59f9d106e56a4509 Follow on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shawnryanshow Follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shawnryanshow/ Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/shawnryanshow/ Follow on X: https://twitter.com/ShawnRyanShow SRS Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL4pqo9Uoh0WuUKxw0BmaK1yrg9Kd7E4lk #vigilanceelite #shawnryanshow Vanessa Marin Links: Website - https://vmtherapy.com/shawn IG - https://www.instagram.com/vanessaandxander X - https://x.com/VMTherapy YT - https://www.youtube.com/vanessamarin Podcast - https://vmtherapy.com/podcast Book (Sex Talks) - https://sextalksbook.com Shawn Ryan Show Sponsors: https://americanfinancing.net/srs NMLS 182334, nmlsconsumeraccess.org. APR for rates in the 5s start at 6.327% for well qualified borrowers. Call 866-781-8900, for details about credit costs and terms. https://shawnlikesgold.com https://helixsleep.com/srs https://calderalab.com/srs Use code SRS for 20% off your first order. https://ketone.com/srs Visit https://ketone.com/srs for 30% OFF your subscription order. https://ziprecruiter.com/srs 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:21 Why Sex Therapy Matters 01:05 Tips for Reigniting Intimacy 03:31 Setting Boundaries in Dating 05:33 Relationship Dynamics and Desire 07:26 The Physiology of Sexual Desire 09:28 Improving Your Sex Life: Practical Advice 36:42 Emotional Intimacy and Connection 47:16 Faking Orgasms and Desire Disconnects 49:42 Building a Healthy Sex Life 51:07 Low Libido and How to Address It 59:15 Different Types of Sex Drives 01:03:43 The Role of Pleasure 01:08:39 Exploring New Things in the Bedroom 01:20:37 Frequency and Its Benefits 01:33:05 Body Image and Self-Confidence 01:33:45 Ideal Duration and Preferences 01:34:48 Positions and Communication 01:37:11 Scheduling Intimacy 01:46:49 Reconnecting with Your Partner 01:54:58 Common Myths About Sex 02:12:14 How AI is Changing Relationships 02:16:37 Final Thoughts and Advice