The concept of letting go is ineffective because it forces individuals to feel powerless, whereas adopting the 'let them' approach allows for detachment and maintaining personal agency.

“what I have always hated about the phrase just let it go is that I feel powerless I feel that I have to surrender I feel like I have no agency whenever I say that to myself”

Holding on too tightly to a relationship out of fear leads to stagnation, whereas letting go can allow for new, meaningful experiences to enter one's life.

“you've got to be able to let go of stuff to make new things come in you've got to have the space and the time yeah to encounter something new”