True love should feel like peace rather than anxiety or emotional instability, which are often confused for passion.

“If you're passive, you'll attract a neglectful love. If you're desperate, you'll attract a weak love. But if you're peaceful, you'd attract a peaceful love.”

Emotional availability is a crucial component of a healthy partnership that should be sought alongside physical attraction.

“I get so many messages from all of you saying, you know, I met this person. They're emotionally available. They're kind. They listen to me, but I'm just not feeling that spark or I'm just like not attracted to them, and I don't know what to do.”

A lack of emotional availability often stems from a person's inability to meet or understand themselves, which prevents them from being present for others.

“People can't meet you in a place that they've not met themselves. So, if somebody isn't being honest with themselves, if somebody isn't validating their own emotions and needs, if somebody isn't getting curious about their experience, how the [ __ ] do you want them to show up for yours”