End of life care should be centered on the specific needs of the dying person, including honoring their personal experiences and requests.

“if you as a family member can see that and hold that a little bit differently, it makes the dying experience different”

Caregivers and families need permission and support to prioritize their own basic needs while keeping a vigil, as patients may need to be alone to pass away.

“You need to take a walk, go take a walk. It may mean that they die when you're not in the room. And maybe that's okay.”

Families cope better with a terminal diagnosis by increasing attention to remaining relationships and deepening those connections in the face of loss.

“I've noticed that families who cope well with the impending death of someone that's Central to the family often do that in no small part by paying increased attention to the remaining relationships and so that as they lose one they deepen the others and sometimes in some sense as a consequence of th”

Medicine should shift its focus from survival at all costs to facilitating a peaceful and beautiful death for patients.

“medicine needs to face the fact that everybody dies you know sooner or later the therapy is gonna fail no matter what it is but to view it as a failure is an incorrect perception at a certain point you have to reach a point where you say this patient this person is not going to live rather than focu”

Lindsey supports destigmatizing and expanding access to medical aid in dying for those suffering from incurable conditions or treatment-resistant mental health struggles.

“I think that, you know, I always like I have like kind of a I don't know, gallows humor like with my kids. I'm like, listen, if I'm at this point, you just like just, you know, put a pillow on me or whatever. I'm all about it. I think that people should have this >> sense of agency, but we also need”

Individuals should explicitly state their preferences regarding end-of-life settings, such as avoiding hospitals, to ensure these goals are incorporated into their care plan.

“I don't want to die in a hospital. Now, I hope that my death is 35 years away, 40 years away, if I'm lucky. I don't want to die in a hospital.”

Medical interventions at the end of life should only be used if they align with the patient's personal goals rather than defaulting to life-prolonging measures.

“Most of us don't equate having a pulse with actually really being alive and that becomes a problem at some point.”

Patients and their families should be given the option to choose palliative care over aggressive, futile medical treatments when the outcome is poor.

“I've learned now that it probably wasn't realistic what we put her through, but we didn't know any better, right? We were at we were being guided by professionals, right? Who were guiding us what to do. And so I've learned not to always push so hard with people.”