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The Uncomfortable Question You Should Ask on Every First Date - Alain de Botton
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Episode273K
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Published
7mo ago
Mar 20, 2026
Length
1h 20m
show avg 1h 16m
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Pre-order my new book - How To Be Magnetic & get 2 special bonuses: https://francescapsychology.com/p/book Alain de Botton is one of the most influential philosophers of our time, best-selling author, and the founder of The School of Life. His work has helped millions of people develop greater self-understanding and improve their relationships.
- 0:00Intro
- 1:56The best thinking comes from problems
- 7:45The anatomy of a good friend
- 10:10What is an emotionally mature person?
- 12:26Why are some people stuck in earlier stages of development?
- 13:44How to get in touch with yourself
- 15:30The questions that unlock self exploration
- 22:00Emotional Curriculum
- 24:00How attachment styles form
- 28:00Why do we go for people that are good for us
- 29:55How to heal insecure attachment
- 30:35How to date successfully
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