A partner who has committed infidelity must be fully transparent and avoid the appearance of impropriety to rebuild trust.

“At a minimum, it's going to mean being totally transparent, being where he's supposed to be, when he's supposed to be, avoiding even the appearance of impropriy, dealing with mood swings that you may have about this, going to therapy, participating in every aspect of whatever it takes to rebuild and”

Once trust is severely compromised in a relationship, it is difficult or impossible to fully restore.

“once that's gone the foundation of your whole relationship is so easily broken it feels like when you get together with someone and you start becoming serious it almost feels like trust is such an interesting thing because you build it up yeah but then it has to almost stay there because if it”

Ramit Sethi defines a real financial hero as someone who builds a transparent, proactive partnership with their spouse to make money decisions together.

“In many relationships, the hero when it comes to money is the person who says yes. They always figure out a way to let you get what you want. They never say no. But in my view, the real hero is one who builds a partnership with their spouse to talk about money regularly”

He believes the lack of financial honesty and the secret borrowing from his safe has fundamentally damaged his trust in her.

“They hurt and uh I just lost trust.”