Ramit argues that a lack of agreed-upon spending thresholds contributes to a breakdown in financial trust between partners.

“she was able to do that because she and Alex did not have an agreed upon number that either of them could spend without discussion.”

Jamie feels she can no longer trust Ryan with money because he made major financial decisions, such as quitting his job and cashing out his 401(k), without consulting her.

“I have lost trust in Ryan in regards to money because he made major decisions without me.”

Casey believes he needs to be able to trust his spouse with money to avoid arguments.

“I need her to be on the same page as me to trust me same way I want to trust her and kind of stop the arguments over the little things as small as McDonald's or whatever”

Ashley believes that a lack of trust in financial decision-making makes a relationship difficult and problematic for the future.

“I feel like there's kind of like that trust factor you need to make those big decisions. And I feel like sometimes when it comes to me, I don't have her 100% trust, but when it's like vice versa, I feel like I trust her.”

He believes the lack of financial honesty and the secret borrowing from his safe has fundamentally damaged his trust in her.

“They hurt and uh I just lost trust.”

Benny argues that trust in a relationship should be extended by default until a partner gives a specific reason to lose that trust.

“I trust everyone until they give me a reason not to. Yes. Okay? And I trust people to be who they are.”

Andy argues that Tommy's constant surveillance and suspicion are suffocating their relationship and are not justified by his own behavior.

“I feel like I'm steadily being watched I check everything from his phone bill to his email accounts I forbid him to ever delete anything I am so tired of arguing because of his jealousy”

Christine Aino asserts that her husband's persistent accusations and surveillance of her have destroyed their marriage.

“I love Mario, but his constant jealousy and accusations has destroyed everything with us.”

He asserts that the degree to which an individual trusts their partner is fundamentally a reflection of the individual's own internal state rather than the partner's actions.

“One of the rules that I really truly believe in is that trust, how much you trust somebody else is very little about them and everything about you.”

She admits that her constant checking of her husband's activities is an addiction stemming from her own insecurity.

“I check Jason's emails probably two or three times a day. I will check the phone records online [music] to see who he's called every single day. It feels like an addiction. The more he hides, the more I go snooping until [music] I make myself sick.”