Acknowleging and sharing heartbreak is necessary for healing, whereas holding it inside causes it to turn into resentment.

“The one thing you cannot do is keep a hold of that and swallow the feeling and never let it out because I think it it grows. It becomes something else. A heartbreak that isn't shared, heartbreak that isn't exorcised, I think becomes resentment and becomes sour”

Healing insecure attachment involves identifying the specific personal history, stress, and narratives that drive avoidant or anxious behaviors rather than just treating it like a disease.

“The way to healing is to understand the stress and the fear and the narrative that drives it. That is the path.”