Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Want to learn how to be a happier and more successful version of yourself… from the psychiatrist that Lady Gaga says “saved her life?” Mel sits down with Stanford-trained psychiatrist, trauma expert, and best-selling author Dr. Paul Conti to help you improve your mental health and be happier this year. Topics discussed: Toxic self-talk starts in childhood Cotard’s Syndrome: the extreme side of negative self-talk Your thoughts become your reality What to do when you feel like a failure or doomed to bad luck Feel happier when you say THIS to yourself 5 strategies for changing your inner dialogue The one area where computers are better than the human brain Why you HAVE to process your childhood trauma What to do with a panic attack The ONE thing you need to know about change What an umbrella has to do with how you think about yourself Purchase Dr. Conti’s book, Trauma: The Invisible Epidemic, here: https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Invisible-Epidemic-Works-Heal/dp/1683647351 Check out his website here: https://drpaulconti.com/ Follow the podcast: The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast/ I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 09:14 Toxic self-talk starts in childhood. 11:19 Cotard’s Syndrome: the extreme side of negative self-talk. 15:27 Your thoughts become your reality. 16:51 Do this when you feel like a failure or doomed to bad luck. 29:30 The one area where computers are better than the human brain. 35:02 Why “good enough” parenting is healthy. 40:12 Feel happier when you say THIS to yourself. 44:43 5 strategies for changing your inner dialogue. 45:45 Why you HAVE to process your childhood trauma. 1:02:27 What to do with a panic attack. 1:11:09 The ONE thing you need to know about change. 1:17:30 What an umbrella has to do with how you think about yourself. #selftalk #healingjourney #happiness — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah