Individuals often unconsciously repeat patterns by dating people who mirror the unresolved emotional trauma from their own upbringing.

“we marry our unfinished business we date our unfinished business too so if you let's say earlier in your life you were around someone who you know was neglectful somebody who drank too much somebody who lost their temper um somebody who wasn't honest somebody who wasn't reliable”

A relationship's success or failure is fundamentally tied to the individual's self-awareness because they are the constant factor in all their relationships.

“Every single relationship that you have whether it's romantic or not has one common denominator and that's you.”

Self-regulation and awareness are essential cornerstones for managing conflict and preventing unnecessary relationship disconnection.

“the more I think about emotional regulation, it really is a cornerstone in a way that we underestimate. Like if we could just understand our emotions and self-regulate just a little bit better. Yeah. >> We would avoid so many of our problems.”